Headship In Marriage

In your own words describe the role of the husband in a marriage.

What does it mean that a man gets his cue from Jesus on how to lead, protect and provide as a husband?

So husbands……

What does it mean to be a leader like Jesus?

What does it mean to be a provider like Jesus?

What does it mean to be a protector Jesus?

Read the following and see where leadership, protector and provider is implied?

Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head (implies leadership / initiative) of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior (implies the protection provision).

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

(if there is an example of initiative to protect his bride this is it!!)

26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

ANOTHER WAY TO DESCRIBE WHAT JESUS DID FOR US IS, HE MADE US BEAUTIFUL TO GOD (this implies initiative to care for your wife and help her to flourish! Men, we can build our wives up!)

28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church   the word nourish means physical provision, the word cherish means loving, tender and emotional provision



1 peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way,

Husbands live with your wife in an understanding way! That means according to knowledge! What does that mean, the knowledge of what and the understanding of what??

Pastor Tommy interpreted that to mean to live with your wives with the understanding and knowledge of every thing relevant in your marriage!

Here are some of those relevant things we need understanding.


  • Your wife – study her, learn how she receives your love and encouragement the best….              KNOW HER THOUGHTS ON STUFF HOW SHE FEELS ABOUT STUFF


                                         a good leader isn’t ignorant of the followers

Pastor Tommy said understanding is key to good care. What does that mean?

Pastor Tommy said that he is the leader of his marriage but he informs his leadership on Kristie’s perceptions of life. What does that mean??

    1. Yourself – Why is self-awareness so important in a marriage?


  • God – You can’t lead your wife without following God yourself!


  1. Gods word – Why is it important to live with your wife with an understanding of Gods            word??
  2. The world – as we live with our wives and lead ou families we are called to know the times!           We need to know what threatens our harmony as a family. We need to know              the environment we’re raising our kids in. As men we are called to be watchmen!

The understanding we have shapes the honor and care we give our wives!!

1 peter 3:7 showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

To honor your wife means to esteem, value and placing worth on her! A husband honoring his wife works its self out it in terms of protection, provision, and leadership.

Vessel = body, this isn’t a statement about her faith, intelligence, her soul, gifts or anything else other than generally speaking, women are physically weaker than men.

Some men take that understanding and use it to abuse. We are to take that understanding and it shape the honor we give them! Would should show meekness, gentleness and understanding. This understanding should make us want to serve her better, sacrifice better and show honor better!

Also our honor is shaped by the understanding  that she is an heir of Gods kingdom! Remember it show honor “since they are heirs with you of the grace of life”

THAT MEANS THAT WE ARE MARRIED TO ROYALTY!! You’re married to a princess, Gods princess she’s an heir of the glory and Kingdom that is coming!! LET THAT SHAPE THE HONPR YOU GIVE YOUR WIFE!

Lets step up as husbands and not abuse our headship or neglect it. As the leader, take initiative and lead, protect and provide!

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